Take the self-quiz at the link above and see if you are a love addict. Now that we know that love creates dopamine in the brain similar to many drugs like cocaine and meth, we can now understand how many can become addicted to being in love.
Why do you think some people fall in love and become love addicts while others fall in love but do not? Do you think that it's a matter of biology? Life scripts? Attachment styles? Self-esteem? etc.
I took the test and I said No to all of them. I think people are addicted to love mainly because the like the feelings im guessing. They probably see it as a high for them. Either that or some people are just very dependent and cant go long without someone, in which case i say that is a very sad position to be in.
ReplyDeleteI took the test and I answered yes to decent number of them. One of my biggest fears is to feel like I have no one. My dad left my life when I was 3 and never cared enough to come back. Throughout my life, I have become pretty familiar with rejection. When I find someone that I feel really cares about me, I tend to fall for them. So in the past I have been attracted to someone just because they were attracted to me. I have gotten hurt this way. I am more carful now in my decision making. The relationship that I am currently in is a good one. We were co-workers that became friends. For once, I was not looking to be in a relationship. I took my time, evaluated the situation, and then made my decision. I think that there are several reasons why people are , or are not love addicts. Everyone is different, so everyone's reason(s) is/are different.
ReplyDeleteI answered no to most of them and was on the fence for some. I can honestly say I'm not addicted to love, but I do love being in love. It is a great feeling and I can understand how some people become addicted. I imagine an addiction to love stems from a lack of love as a child, but that is completely unfounded. Does anyone else have Robert Palmer playing in their head?
ReplyDeletelove is blind; hands reached out in darkness for somebody, anybody, to procreate with. love is just a psychological effect. like every other feeling you have, its based on everything your subconscious hears and a cocktail of chemicals, which ultimately mean nothing. an addiction to love is a result of some sort of past trauma or the result of thinking too hard. 'love addiction' is a deep longing and lack of love, an illogical fear of inadequacy that preys on others. if 'true love' did exist, wouldnt 'love addiction' cease in the presence of equal or greater love?
ReplyDelete-Tom 'Bleak Outlook' Shipman
The self-quiz was interesting though I think many people can convince themselves to answer 'no' knowing full well they've said yes in the past.
ReplyDeleteI thought of a few love addicts I've met in my past. Ironically most emerged during high school; girls looking to fit in with a new crush or boyfriend, and boys dying to say they have a girlfriend! I'm sure we can all remember those of our friends who consistently introduce new person A,B,C as "the one". As I've grown out of those friends, I now see it in the bar/club scene... those folk without a single hobby, are usually out looking for love...
Cue the country song, "Lookin' for love in too many places, lookin' for love in too many faces..... - Bless the day I discover, another heart, lookin' for love." <3
I also thought of myself in this respect because I've had three significant relationships that were each long lasting and very close in time period. It was neat to relfect and ask myself if I'm the hopeless romantic. I see myself in past situations agreeing to things simply for the sake of "making it work" however I never felt my fascination with "love" entirely overpower my ability to see the other person objectively.
I think love is a great thing. It helps me feel good like someone cares about me and it makes me happy. I don't have to be in love to be happy though. Some people do and I think that's because of a different combination of things. Life experiences, not being cared for and not having enough friends could be some of the causes of being addicted to love. This could be because they desire more attention and care or they are just not used to this type of attention and want more. I have been with a love addict before and things did not end very well between us. Being addicted to love can be bad at times so I tend to stay away from the clingy type of girls.
ReplyDeleteI answered no to 38 out of the 40, but then again I'll admit to being a massive narcissist as well. Its how I developed to cope with rejection. Yes, my response to rejection is "It's because I'm too awesome for you isn't it?"
ReplyDeleteI'm thinking people with love addictions need that love to validate themselves as human beings.