Why do people become love addicts? I'd say it's mostly a self-esteem issue. People who are love addicts need someone to be with them, care for them, show affection, and make them feel worth something.
On the other hand, people with high self-esteem tend to understand love is not everything. These kinds of people understand who they are and do not need someone to hold them up. They're confident. Because of this, they are able to see love as something not necessary. Yes, it's wonderful, but not "I'm falling to pieces without someone."
Okay, So I am a hopeless romantic and a love addict. Not the smothering suicidal type but the dreamy sleepless in Seattle type. Some of those questions were pretty wacko. I would consider myself a healthy love addict, if there is such a thing. I think that love and wanting love is healthy and for those who feel that they don't need anyone I feel bad for them.
ReplyDeleteWhy do you feel bad for people who don't feel they need someone to love and be loved in return? Do you consider it "bad" to not feel like you need someone?
ReplyDeleteI guess I have the complete opposite opinion. I think it's not really bad, but not the best thing to feel like you need someone. I think people should be able to live without a partner. Yeah, love is great, but I don't think one should be falling to pieces with out a love interest.
People should have enough self-esteem to hold themselves up, and not rely on another for support. It's fine to lean on someone when you're in a relationship, but I don't think people should lean on their partner so much they couldn't survive without them. It puts too much pressure on their partner and is not fair.
I'm not saying people should throw love aside, disregarding it as nothing. Love is great. It's fulfilling. But I don't think it should be all consuming.