We have spent the last semester exploring all facets of interpersonal communication together. Now it's your turn to offer some advice on the subject. Life's many complexities leaves many scars. The fear of rejection and commitment is a common scar left after the ending of a meaningful relationship. It can leave one emotionally immobilized, stagnated, depressed and lead to self-destructive, self-defeating irrational behaviors, and regression. Share with us, how you think one can learn to overcome their fear of commitment and rejection and be open again to engage in current and future relationships.
I have had my fair share of bad relationships, mostly 'friends' who sent me into a downward spiral leaving me emotionally shredded. There's no easy way to move on with your life as i have struggled constantly for nearly half of my life. The only way to move on is to man up, make fierce eye-contact, and walk directly into the direction of your fears. Thoreau said something along those lines. But then again, that pain is what makes you human; "the deeper that sorrow carves into your being, the more joy you can contain" - Kahlil Gibran. All in all, your better off sitting inside all day.
ReplyDeleteHmm best way to overcome the fear of commitment and rejection? Treat it as something less significant than it is. The less you care about it, the less it matters, the smaller the wound will be. not the best advice but it is all i can come up with.
ReplyDeleteI believe tht bad relationship should be seen as such, bad relationship with the wrong kind of person. I say take it from whom it comes from, if you're getting out of a relationship with someone who cheated, then hey its their loss not yours. Take the positive from it and think of it as yet another lesson learned. That's usually the way I try to look at things. If all else fails a gallon of ice and your fav movie should do the trick ;)
ReplyDeleteWatch practical magic with a half pint of Haggen Daas and you will feel better about getting back into the dating world if you have been hurt. A sad situation to be in is that of someone with a broken heart. Just be aware and do your best to be resilient. Loved this class. Peace out guys!
ReplyDeleteSorry for missing class last Tuesday! I had some BS to deal with in New Braunfels. I'll tell y'all all about it tomorrow, it's a great story. Anyway, I don't have much first hand advice on getting over a bad relationship. I've had three serious relationships. The first one ended on bad terms, but I was mentally out of it months before it actually ended so it wasn't that bad for me. The second one ended on friendly terms because she moved away and we agreed we didn't want a long distance relationship. The third has turned into an engagement. If everyone could be as lucky as me, we wouldn't have this blog post!
ReplyDeleteOne can learn to overcome their fear of commitment and rejection by just building up their confidence. I think being confident about yourself is the most important thing to moving on. Dont be scared and just move on with your life and dont let anyone bring you down because at the end of the day its your life not theirs.
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