Love is complicated, Lust is simple

Love is complicated. It is putting their wants and needs before your own. It is the fighting and the making up. Love is accepting each others differences. Lust is simple. There is nothing to accept you just get what you want and be on your way. There are no strings attached. But loving someone is adding them to the definition of who you are and it changes you forever.

Love, Lust, or Both...

To answer to the first question, can a human being love without the impulse of lust, is yes a person can love without lust.

In order to love someone you have to understand what the definition of love is. There is no exact definition of love but I think the definition giving in the bible is fairly accurate to me. It states,

"Love is patient, love is kind, love is not jealous; love does not brag and is not arrogant, love is unconditional and one does not expect love in return, love does not cause any kind of aggravation, love does not judge you on the wrong you have done, love is pure and rejoices with the truth. Love believes all these things, hopes for the best, and endures all."

However, you can lust and love at the same time. It really just depends on the individual that is doing the loving.

Love, Lust, or.. Both?

Many people confuse love and lust, but they are actually very different. And yet they are also intertwined so much it's just about impossible to have one without the other in a successful relationship. They both work together to form a beautiful lasting bond. Without love, one would end their relationship at the first sign of trouble. It's not worth it for one to live through stress with no connection to the other. Without lust, one would be unable to satisfy a basic human desire and therefore be unhappy with their relationship. Here are a couple characteristics of each:

Lust:

• You're totally focused on their looks and body.
• You don't care about anything they have to say.
• You don't want to spend time with them outside of the bedroom.
• After you're finished, you look for the easiest way to leave. No cuddling, no breakfast the next morning, just "I gotta go."

Love:

• You make time for the person and include them in your plans.
• You get lost in your conversations, and the hours pass like minutes.
• You introduce them to others close to you and do your best to help them get along.
• And the biggest one to me: You see a future together.

What is LOVE????

I read this from one of my students and thought that this would be a great blog topic, so have at it...

Can a human being experience love without the impulse of lust?  Lust here meaning the craving for sex.  How does one know when they are in love and not just having a deceptive feeling of lust?  Sex is a natural thing- it helps in keeping a species alive.  Human beings are animals that need to reproduce as well.  On the other hand, we are rational beings and experience sentiment and rationality.  In order to know that difference between both, both must be defined.  So the real question is....what is LOVE????  And how can you tell if someone is in love with you and not just lusting after you?

No luck...

Pick up lines were like the excuses I used in middle school... I only had a few good ones, and it was hit and miss if either ever worked. But for my young men in the class ----(Ladies, no peeking.)----
Women love flattering!

Um yeah...

Well I'm proud to say that’s I have never used a cheesy pick up line. That isn’t to say I have never heard them like on TV and on Movies. However, I have never been fortunate enough to hear one in person. If I were to hear one in real life I probably would start laughing uncontrollably.
I know it’s childish, but I have someone check and see if I would be liked. That way I’m almost guaranteed not to get shot down, but in life there are no guarantee’s in life. Say the girl thinks you’re cute, but you meet and there is no chemistry between you.
Yet, the way I think girls like best is approach her with confidence, be truthful but respectful, and don't trip over your words. When I say don't trip over your words, is know what you're going to say, and say it with confidence.

The Pick-Up Artist Blog Post # 4

Studies show that we have approximately 4 minutes in the contact stage to make a good impression.   And based on that first impression, many of us make up our minds on whether or not we want to pursue the relationship to the next level or just remain acquaintances.

Share with us your favorite pick-up lines (funny, serious, cheesy, etc).  From your own experiences, do they work?  What do you think is the best "pick-up" strategy? (Leave a green dangly earring behind? Put your phone number in their phone?)  Let's see what you can come up with!